Ask A Sex Goddess

By Sex Goddess, WireTap
Posted on March 4, 2007, Printed on November 21, 2008
http://www.wiretapmag.org/sex/43031/

Oh, Goddess,

Why do young people still seek to become unpaid interns and gofers for the powerful? Since these 'positions' in the business and politics have often come to be known as a euphemism for a sex object expected to provide oral and other sexual services to the amoral holders of 'power' to get 'ahead,' why do bright young people still seek these degrading arrangements?

Back in the '60s the brighter students avoided many internships, because of the stigma one bore after completing one of these arrangements. Getting hit on by less than sexy older people is part of the unwritten job descriptions. Why bother? Interns get few, if any, learning experiences, or insights on how the system works, and a lousy rep. The hippie scene was a lot more fun than these internships and whatever the bohemian scene is called now beats being tagged as a young sex object for the establishment.

Kitchen Cynic

Dear Cynic,

This question is so entertaining. Part of me wants defend the wonderland of internship, at least in a dated context. The idea of apprenticing, based on passion and interest, to learn a craft ... it's a delightful concept. Too often the reality is learning to bullshit, smile and get coffee while sending faxes for people who are lazy and have nowhere else to exercise power.

All that said, for the power fetishist, there's little as ripe -- in our socialized and rather boring collective sexual landscape -- as the clear-cut power dynamic of being a lowly intern to a powerful, possibly gross and often repressed businessperson or politician. If we just take a moment to imagine every intern, page, gofer, etc. as a fetishist in training ... oh, wait, know what? That's so last year. The scandals to watch for this year: Obama on Blast After He's Caught with White Lady; Hillary's Lesbian Lover Knocks Down Closet Door; and other such presidential candidate fodder.

S.G.

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