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By Sex Goddess, June 1, 2007

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Sex Column: 'I'm 5'11" 123 pounds and my hubby is 5'3" 128 pounds. Our sizes never caused any trouble until now ... '

I've been married three years and I'm happy. I'm 5'11" 123 pounds, my hubby is 5'3" 128 pounds. Our sizes never caused any trouble in fact, I love having him tiny. He's my little man and when we go out I wear my 3-inch heels whether he likes it or not. For the last three months he's another person, saying I laugh at him, saying now he's scared of me. I'd never hurt him ever. He's ranting and raving and throwing tantrums like a child, looking up at me screaming at me. I really don't know what to do. I mean this is a man I used to dress up in the morning like my very own doll and now all he does is yell and act, and yes, I'll say it, like a silly little man. I'd never tell him that. I used to love showing him off to everyone and going out with him. Our sex life was incredible, but now that's even slowed. Am I doing something wrong?

I'm so scared now when I go to work. I hate leaving him all alone without me now. I want my little man back. Please sex goddess, tell me what I can do.

Dollkeeper

Dear Dollkeeper,

Well gee whiz. What short man wouldn't want to be dressed up like a doll and called a tiny man? I think your tiny man woke up to the fact that your fetish left him no room to actually be a man. He's triggered now, so probably everything you say and do that speaks to his diminutive size is setting him off. To be fair, you have fetishized his height and size to a place that could be disempowering or anyone. I doubt you would want to be with someone who called you his giant woman and focused his loving sexual attention on your size more than any other aspect of you. Sit down and talk about how you both feel about each other as whole people, not just as size opposites.

SG

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